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Lubricants
for Sex and Toys... don't leave (or
stay
at) home without it!
Pain!
Although many
of us may like pain mixed with our pleasure... seeking ways to play
with pain as an endorphin rush in our kinky sex! However, there is no
greater turn-off during that hot moment of escalating pleasure
than the searing, burning pain of a toy or finger or fist or penis...
or whatever... being thrust inward as it comes to a screeching halt due
to lack of enough lube! The moisture from a good lubricant will go a
long, long way... spitting or waiting for mother nature to send her
naturally formed lubricants in enough supply is an exercise in futility
and disappointment, guaranteed!
The good news is that lubes are now specifically created to be more
than just a moisturizer, which is basically all we get from spit and
mother nature... it's formulated to be more slippery than our own
natural juices thus giving a layer of slick protection between whatever
is in motion!
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For those who have reached a
biological response of almost no "mother
nature" lubricant at all, lubricants are a must! The delicate tissues
of the vaginal and rectal lining responds immediately to proper
lubrication. Many women who may complain of pain during intercourse,
could alleviate that immediately with a lube that gently allows for
stretching and sliding, when things feel "dried up'!
There are a myriad of biological responses for the vaginal "dried up"
feeling such as menstruation, age, medical issues, stress,
pharmaceuticals, pregnancy, menopause, the list is as diverse as each
and every woman! But using a lubricant saves the moment, everytime!
And then there's anal sex! Pain,
again? Well, maybe there wasn't enough lube used! That is the
single biggest inhibitor for anal sex or playing with anal toys... not
enough lube used! Come on...
even if the porno you just watched shows the guy spitting into his
hand, then ramming that two pound piece of salami into her (or his)
rear, trust this: those actors were lubed up first before they rolled
the
cameras!
Oh, don't forget the sex toys! There are more and more amazing
sex toys being developed all the time! It's a great time to be sexual
explorers. But the day you open the box with your new toy inside, make
sure you
have (or bought) an appropriate lubricant to use with it... or it too
will become an un-fun, painful experience. The reason for the use of
the term "appropriate"
lube is due to the material the toy(s) is/are made from. Silicone toys,
for example cannot be used with silicone lubricant. Silicone eats
itself!
Types of Lubricants
Lubes, just like all of the new toys on the market, are being developed
at break-neck speed, with many of the changes of formulas assuring that
the lubricant works well, but more
importantly, keeps the user well! Many of the lubes in the last 10-20
years have changed their formulas for health reasons, as well as their
slip and slide effectiveness. So be sure you pay attention to what you
are buying and
using in and on your body. Our credo is and always has been "safe",
sane and consensual, so that includes the lubricants we sell! We seek
out the safe ones!
With that in mind, part of that "lubricant history" of the last decades
included using food based and/or oil-based lubes, such as Crisco, olive
oil, vaseline which is a petroleum product. Since those days, the
discovery that these cause bacteria infections,
yeast infections, etc. have pretty much made them
a huge no-no! Along with
their health risks, they break down materials
like latex, rubber, pvc, etc. so eventually toys and condoms (how many
broken condom stories have you heard?) break down, rendering them
useless. If you have (and most have) ever seen what a latex dildo looks
like after using "oil based" lubricants ... not a pretty sight! And
shudder to think of using it after that - yet, many did, not
understanding what happened to their beloved dong!
Water
The water-based lubricants
that we use today are basically a derivative
from a very familiar source, Surgilube and Ky-Jelly! Yes! They
were invented for the medical and surgical fields for easy
insertion of instruments into orifices for gynecological or
proctological purposes. Before that, the medical profession primarily
used a petroleum or oil based product like Vaseline, which for obvious
reasons was discontinued when it was found to be a carcinogen. Once the
ease of cleaning up
after using water based lubes, along with its hygienic properties
leaked out [pun intended] into the public sectors, it became a
maelstrom of manufacturers all competing to out-do each other with the
best water-based lubricant on the market. So we can be thankful
for the huge variety and continued improvements being made to this very
basic, but very important product!
Water-based lubes are more popular for many reasons: they are latex,
rubber and condom safe, non-staining and tend to be thicker in
viscosity. Yet, one of their drawbacks is that they dehydrate rather
quickly,
however, they can be re-hydrated again, by adding water. Anal sex does
very
well with water-based lubes thanks to it thicker consistancy adding a
buffer, of sorts, protecting the delicate rectal tissue, along with the
slip and slide factor.
Now, because of our attention to safety and health, we highly recommend
staying away from water-based lubes that have glycerin. Glycerin can
become a sugar compound
when introduced to the natural bacterias of the vagina and then, it's
yeast infection or even UTI (Urethral Tract Infection). Another
ingredient to stay way from is paraben. It also causes UTI's.
Especially women, look for water-based
lubes that contain purified water and are glycerin-free
and paraben-free. As stated earlier, the manufacturers are
continuing to improve these products, knowing that you won't buy
them, if they hurt you!
Silicone
Silicone-based
lubricants are clear, thinner and very, very slippery.
Because silicone is an expensive raw material, the silicone lubricants
cost almost double the cost of water-based, but the good thing about
silicone lubes they seem to last forever! It's very easy to buy
three to four times the amount of water-based lubes to the one made of
silicone.
Silicone lube lovers get hooked on the longevity. Although its
consistency is very thin, it does not get absorbed into the skin, as
the water-based lubes do, therefore it slides much easier. Another
great quality of using non-bacterial reactive silicone is that it
decreases
any risk of infections, allergies or reactions with your body.
It's also a great massage oil because it lasts so long on the skin.
Some people with really stubborn facial or body hair use it for
shaving. And
for latex clothes fans, it is ideal for shining up latex! But remember,
it is über slippery!! Be very careful where it is used. It can be very
hazardous, if any spills on the floor or in the bath or shower. Use a
good soap (Castile soap is great!) and warm water to clean up.
Now here are the drawbacks: silicone lubricants CANNOT be used on
silicone toys. It actually bonds to the silicone in the toy and the end
result is a gummy, sticky unusable silicone toy. Many have tried and
many have learned. The other issue with silicone lubes, unlike
water-based lubes, they do not wash out of fabrics easily. The best
idea for use is on a non porous surface, that can wipe up easily and
keep away from cottons, wools, or any fabrics for that matter! One last
drawback, it is not recommended for ingesting. Again, the water-based
lubes may be flavored and even swallowed with little effect to the
tummy, but don't try it with silicone lubes.
Most silicone lubes include cyclomethicone, dimethiconaol, silicone,
dimeticone copolyol.
Mixed
Lubes
As stated earlier, the manufacturers of lubes have been rolling up
their sleeves and putting on their thinking caps trying to come up with
the next HOT! product for the ever growing population of sexually
active
adults, raging in ages from 20's to 90's! One of their new tricks up
those
sleeves is the ability to mix lubes, such as a combination of the easy
to use thicker quality of water-based
fused with silicone for
increased longevity and slipperiness!
Another type of designer
lubes has a concept that is so simple and fun: one of the partners puts
one lube on
their body part, then the other partner puts a different lube on their
body part and then when the
intercourse of those two body parts
happens, BOOM! there is a
chemical reaction that makes for highly
stimulating sensations and sensitivities. Some of these tend to get
warmer, some
get tingly, they may react differently depending on the body's
chemistry
and interactions.
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